Have you made friendships that exist exclusively in cyberspace? If so, how are they different from f2f relationships? If you have not formed cyber relationships, why not?
I have never made friendships that exist exclusively in cyberspace. I have an experience talking with someone online through Skype, but the conversation was only for that moment because I just wanted to kill time at that time. It would be troublesome for me if the person online kept talking to me every week like my real friends because I don't want to spend my time for people in cyberspace. I also feel that it is unsecure to talk with people online because I cannot talk to them face to face, and there is no way to know who the person really is. Thus, if I have a trouble or something to concern, I would talk to my friends who I already know rather than people online.
I have a friend who tries to find a romantic partner in a different country through Skype. Once he got a girlfriend through Skype, but after a while, his “girlfriend” said to him that she doesn’t want to talk to him anymore and he lost contact with her. He was hurt, but my friend and I didn’t know what to say to him because we didn't think it is a good idea to find a girlfriend through Skype for the first place.
On the other hand, I think it is a good idea to find a romantic partner online through a specialized internet site, such as match.com or harmony.com. This is because these sites can be used as an opportunity to find a partner. They can actually meet, and then be a couple if they liked each other. They can see each other, so I think it is more real and safer than being together just inside the cyberspace.
Final Post
15 年前
5 件のコメント:
Hi Chocoyuko! :) Nice post. I used Skype to talk to my family when I was in Europe. It's very easy to use, but I can agree that it would be weird to get a girlfriend or boyfriend from this program! I agree with your point that you would rather talk to your friends who you know rather than internet friends. I feel the same way! I also agree with you that many people have found healthy and trusting relationships through match.com or harmony.com. I'm not sure I would use those websites, but it seems to work for a lot of people!
I agree with you that finding a romantic partner for an exclusively online relationship is a bad idea. You never really get to know the person, only the parts that they want to portray to you. The social, cognitive and other cues are not there. I also use to chat to pass time but never to find a long term relationship with any of the people I talked to. I do disagree with you slightly about finding potential romantic partners online through websites such as match.com and eharmony. I think that it is a good idea in general but I think people start to take it too far and stop trying to find partners in the real world and are less interactive, or proactive about dating when they are face to face with people.
Sorry for what happened to your friend on Skype. I have a hard time figuring out why people would want to look for a possible boyfriend or girlfriend on line. It's almost the same as going shopping. You know what you want but who has the best offer in what you want?
Sorry for what happened to your friend on Skype. I have a hard time figuring out why people would want to look for a possible boyfriend or girlfriend on line. It's almost the same as going shopping. You know what you want but who has the best offer in what you want?
Chocoyuko- I couldn’t agree with you more about online being unsecure. I feel as though many people lie when being online but as I wrote in my blog when I was around fourteen I would go in the chat rooms of AOL and even talked to someone consistently for over a year on there and chatted like we knew each other. At the same time I would lie and say things that weren’t true and felt as though I could say whatever I wanted to whom ever I wanted if it was online because no one would ever find out. Now that I don’t go in chat rooms or talk to people I’ve never met I feel as though it has become more and more dangerous seeing young girls doing it.
コメントを投稿