Pick one other concept in the book that you feel needs further discussion? (You can choose from ANY chapter in the book).
The concept I want to discuss further is about interpersonal communication on chapter 6. I have an interest especially on public scrutiny test. It states,
1. Am I personally proud of this action?
2. Am I comfortable with this decision?
3. Would I feel uncomfortable or embarrassed if this decision were known to my colleagues, friends, spouse, or children?
I should write down these questions and put on a wall because I sometimes don’t have confidence on what I am doing.
However, I think people need some exceptions. For example, I have an experience taking a day off at my part-time job because I really wanted to go my friends’ farewell party. I should have scheduled my time in advance, but I called my job on that day and told them that I got sick. I knew this was irresponsible and I didn’t feel comfortable lying to my boss. On the other hand, I told myself, “It’s just a part-time job. There are other people working today so it’ll be ok”, and couldn’t give up going to the farewell party.
I wonder what you would do in a situation like this.
Final Post
15 年前
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Trust me. Everyone does that even though they aren't sick. Some people do it to go to an important function like a farewell party. And some people do it because they have been stressed out for the whole week and just need a day to relax. They call those days, mental-health days. Don't feel bad about that. Besides, its just a part time job.
I think the public scrutiny test should be taken with a gain of salt. It seems like you have the same take on this particular subject because you were able to look at your situation and see that the farewell party is worth taking time off from your job. I think your situation was more of a balancing act between your personal life and your professional life. Sometimes work needs to take the back seat. Often I work too hard and don’t get out to do fun stuff and make memories. Even though lying to your boss wasn’t the most ideal thing, in the end I think you did the right thing. I think that it is a good idea to keep these questions in mind. It would help people make better decisions so they wouldn’t have to regret them later.
Chocoyuko, It's common for some to feel a sense of guilt after calling in to work and playing sick.
The test is exactly what it is, "Public scrutiny." Some decisions that we make in life will not be welcomed by others. It is important that we understand why we do what we do.
I've worked at jobs where I wouldn't even think of calling in, if it wasn't urgent. Why not? . . because I liked my job and I was concerned about my shift being covered.
Now, on the other hand, I've had those jobs that I didn't care if I got fired! Seriously. So, needless to say, I wouldn't hesitate to call in. However, I was still acting selfishly because someone who appreciated the job could be filling it and, also, I failed to consider the people who would have to fill my spot.
In all actuality it comes to this, is it ever okay to lie?
I can't speak for anyone else, except for you, but I have lied and I lied yesterday. I don't feel good about it either. However, I prayed to God about it and it's a constant battle with me.
Not that I'm a compulsive liar, but a lie is a lie; no matter how we try to clean it up. We are constantly approached with various situations and many times we may get the urge to "lie" in order to protect someone.
The Ten Commandments says, "Thou Shalt Not Lie." In the "END" we are all responsible for our decisions and how we choose to use our tongues.
Public scrutiny is an intereseting concept, which can be taken to extremes some time. Imagine if every action that was performed, or decision made was trully judged under this test. We would have alot of folks who spent much of their times debating or fell embarrased or ashamed of their actions. Also, in the public scrutiny test, we are estimating the judgements of others and society. What if our individual thoughts are different from that of the society or others. The only person you must really answer to, or should feel guilty about dissappointing is yourself. Everyone should judge, if they must, against their own beliefs and actions. Most of the time it is a decision that is made by choosing the lesser of two evils, for example calling in sick, or feeling horrible and not performing as you should be.
Dont worry about it, everyone does it. What I found intereting was when I applied for my current job, there was a question on the application that asks "Have you ever called in sick to work, for any other reason other then personal of family sickness??" I found that question to be weird because I have never been asked that question with any other application other then my current job!! Of course I was sorta honest, I said yes and the reason I called in sick was because I needed to study for a final, which was half the truth. With my current job I still call in sick even though its my full time job that I plan to work at for a while. I dont feel bad, the way I see it is if you have the vacation or sick time then its your time so why not use it???? Dont get me wrong I do feel guilty but not for my job because there are plenty of people willing to work OverTime and take over my shift for that day, but I do feel a little guilty for the kids that I am not there for, for that day.
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