Because nonverbal messages can be ambiguous, they are open to misinterpretation. Have you ever been wrong about the meaning of someone's nonverbal message? Describe what happened. How can people increase the accuracy with which they interpret nonverbal messages.
According to the textbook, people’s orientations of time and space bring nonverbal messages (pg.122).
Before I read the textbook, I have never recognized that differences of time orientations can bring us difficulty to understand each other. I am a future-oriented person (pg.123). I like to make a plan, and I rarely am late because I always check a time when a train leaves and move accordingly. I also have never been late to submit assignments because I plan when to finish multiple assignments to different due dates. My friend often comes late. She misses a train a lot, and I see her being rushed time to time. When she is late, I get little irritated. I think, “Why doesn’t she prepare beforehand.” I thought she comes late because she doesn’t care so much about letting someone wait.
However, according to the textbook, maybe it isn’t the only case. I think my friend is a present, fatalism-oriented person. She doesn’t assume how long it takes for what she is doing. It seems even she did assume the time, things don’t go accordingly.
Now when I think about it, every time she is late, she doesn’t look like she didn’t care about me waiting at a station. From now on, I will tell myself, “It is a difference of time orientations.”
As I learned about my friend’s time orientation, to reduce the misunderstandings of nonverbal messages, we need to be aware of time, space, and territory differences that others have. I remember my brother got mad when I read his comic books when we were children. I couldn’t understand it because it is totally ok for me if others read my comic books, watch my movies or use my pens, especially among my family. However, we all need to keep in our mind that the advice from the textbook; “things don’t bother us doesn’t mean that they don’t bother others” (pg.136).
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15 年前
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I believe that managing your time and space is usually a product of with good or poor planning. Another possibility is that there may be some passive-aggressive tendencies in the person. The nonverbal communication may be that you really don't respect the meeting, the job, or the gathering and you don't want to be there. Usually when we want to be somewhere, or we want to complete a task, we make the time to get it done or be there on time.
Then again, if we're late we may want to be the center of attention. We may want to engage in the event or meeting after the introductions have been made and the real meeting has started.
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